The Life of Abu Bakr Al-Siddik – Part 3

The Life of Abu Bakr Al-Siddik – Part 3

The best of mankind after the prophet SAW is Abu Bakr, then Umar, then Uthman, then Ali, then the remaining six given the good tiding of Paradise. When Muhammed, son of Ali rA, asked him “Who is the best of mankind after the Prophet SAW? He said: Abu Bakr” [Bukhari]. As for Umar, he said “Abu Bakr, our master, the best of us and the most beloved to the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace” [Tirmidhi].

And when the prophet SAW was asked who is most beloved to him, he answered “Aisha”, and when asked about the men, He said “Her father” [Bukhari]. Furthermore, he SAW said “The most merciful of my Ummah (nation) towards my Ummah is Abu Bakr, the most severe of them in the matter of Allah is Umar, the most truly modest of them is Uthman, ..” [Ahmad & Tirmidhi]. So as you can see, the ranking of Abu Bakr among the companions, has nothing to do with personal opinions. The matter has been set clear!

Now let’s take a look at the verses, which were revealed in praise of Abu Bakr rA, because those will add another angle to his ranking. When Allah SWT says “The second of the two when the two were in the cave” (9:40), He wants you to remember Abu Bakr each time you read this verse.

Then, how many Muslims know that Abu Bakr is the one who bought Bilal with a cloak and 10 pieces of silver, then set him free for the sake of Allah? Allah SWT swore in three consecutive verses before recording what Abu Bakr did with Bilal in the 4th verse so that you don’t forget it! Read carefully now: “By the night enshrouding. And the day resplendent. And Him Who has created male and female. Indeed your efforts differ” (92:1-4).

Actually, Abu Bakr freed so many slaves that the rest of the verses in Surat Al-Layl were revealed to record his noble acts for Allah’s sake. The verses “So for one who gave and practiced piety. And believes in goodness. So We will very soon provide him ease” (92:4-7) are all talking about Abu Bakr people!

Ibn Abbas further said that the verse “and consult with them in the conduct of affairs” (3:159) referred to Abu Bakr and Umar rA. Ibn Hatem narrated that the verse “And for him who fears to stand before his Lord, are two Gardens” (55:46) was about Abu Bakr. Al-Tabarani said that the verse “indeed Allah is his Supporter, and Jibreel and the virtuous believers” (66:4) referred to Abu bakr and Umar. Whereas, the verse “These are the ones whose good deeds We will accept, and overlook their shortfalls, among the People of Paradise” (46:16) is also believed to be about Abu Bakr rA.

Those were the verses revealed about Abu Bakr rA, so let’s now turn to the authentic Hadiths of the prophet SAW where he praised his best friend. The prophet said “There has been no prophet but that he had two deputies from the people of heaven and two deputies from the people of earth. As for my two deputies from the people of heaven, they are Jibril and Mikail, and as for my two deputies from the people of earth they are Abu Bakr and Umar” [Tirmidhi]. Now you know where to classify those who hate Jibril and Mikail, and where to classify those who hate Abu Bakr and Umar.

The prophet SAW also said “Abu Bakr is in Heaven, Umar is in Heaven, Uthman is in Heaven, Ali is in Heaven, …” [Authentic]. I am not sure what clearer classification and ranking of the companions do people need when the order is clear even to the blind-hearted! The prophet SAW said “I will be the first over whom the earth will split open, then Abu Bakr and Umar” [Tirmdhi].

To be resumed inshaa Allah in Part 4…

The Life of Abu Bakr Al-Siddik – Part 2

The Life of Abu Bakr Al-Siddik – Part 2

Abu Bakr rA wasn’t just a vanguard in embracing Islam, but he was also the most generous in spending his wealth for the benefit of Islam. He was so generous that Allah SWT had to honor it in a revelation solely describing how he bestowed his wealth at the service of Islam. Allah SWT said “Who gives his wealth in self-purification. And no one has done a favor to him, for which he should be compensated” (92:19-20), that was Abu Bakr! “He desires only to please his Lord, the Supreme. And indeed, soon he will be very pleased” (92:19-21), that was indeed Abu Bakr rA!

 Furthermore, the prophet SAW left us an authentic Hadith, not about prayer nor fasting, but to document Abu Bakr’s generosity on Islam. He SAW said “No wealth ever benefited me as did the wealth of Abu Bakr. Abu Bakr wept and said: Are I and my wealth for any but you, Messenger of Allah?” [Ahmad]. So let it be very clear that no one ever spent more money to free slaves who were being tortured in Mecca for the sake of Allah than Abu Bakr Al-Siddik. And let it be very clear that no one ever spent more money on arming the believers than Abu Bakr Al-Siddik; that’s why no one whosoever will outdo him!

One day Umar thought that he’d outdo Abu Bakr by giving half his wealth in charity, only to discover later on that Abu Bakr had give all his. And when the prophet SAW asked Abu Bakr “what have you left for your family? He said: I have left for them Allah and His Messenger”[Tirmidhi]. This is when Umar rA finally admitted “‘I will never ever outdo him (Abu Bakr) in anything” [Tirmidhi], and this is the plain truth.

Actually, Abu Bakr rA has done so much for Islam that he couldn’t be rewarded in this life, but rather on the Day of Judgement! The prophet SAW said “We have never been under obligation to anyone but that we have repaid him, except for Abu Bakr, for he has put obligations on us which Allah will repay him for on the Day of Rising. No wealth has ever benefited me as that of Abu Bakr” [Tirmidhi].

Right after the prophet’s death, it was Abu Bakr’s knowledge that saved Islam from a disastrous outcome as people refused to pay their Zakah, and this is when he uttered his famous words “By Allah, I will fight whoever distinguishes between Salah and Zakah. By Allah, if they refuse me as much as the halter of a camel which they used to pay to the Messenger of Allah SAW I will fight them over their refusal” [Bukhari & Muslim].

When Ibn Umar rA was asked: Who used to give fatwa for people at the time of the prophet SAW, he gave two names: Abu Bakr and Umar rA. Actually, Abu Bakr rA wasn’t just knowledgeable in the matters of Deen, but he was also of sharp intelligence. When the prophet SAW informed the companions that “Allah SWT has given a slave the choice between the world and that which is with Him. That slave has chosen that which is with Allah” [Bukhari & Muslim], who was the only one to understand the message? None other than Abu Bakr! Abu Bakr wept and said” We would ransom you with our fathers and mothers” [Bukhari & Muslim], because he knew the prophet meant himself.

No wonder the prophet SAW made it crystal clear that “It is not fitting for a people among whom is Abu Bakr that another than him should lead them”[Tirmidhi].

To be resumed inshaa Allah in Part 3…

The Life of Abu Bakr Al-Siddik – Part 1

The Life of Abu Bakr Al-Siddik – Part 1

His name was Abdullah Ibn Abi Quhafah, and his family was connected to that of the prophet SAW through his grand father Murrah. He earned his famous nickname “Al-Siddik” for never hesitating to affirm the prophet SAW and adhering steadfastly to the message of Islam. Before getting into any details, let it be very clear, that the best person to have served Islam after the prophet SAW, is Abu Bakr!

He was born two years after the birth of the Prophet SAW, and he died two years after the prophet’s death, subhan Allah! He spent his early life in Mecca, traveling only to conduct his trade business, being one of Mecca’s most wealthy and noble men. Before Islam, he never drank wine nor spoke/composed poetry, and when asked why, his reply “‘to protect my honor and guard my manliness”.

He was a fair man, of slender build, thin cheeks, slight stoop, skinny face, deep eyes, prominent forehead, and fleshless hands. The first among “men” to have accepted Islam and to perform prayer with the prophet SAW was Abu Bakr Al-Siddik; Ali being the first among boys. The prophet SAW described how Abu Bakr rA accepted Islam in a beautiful Hadith, which reflects the uniqueness of this noble companion. He SAW said “‘I have never Invited anyone to Islam except that he had an aversion to it, and Irresolution and deliberation, except Abu Bakr” [Authentic].

Then eventually the prophet SAW had to declare the message to his people, so how did they reply to him, and how did Abu Bakr reply? Let’s read from Bukhari: The prophet SAW said “People, I am the Messenger of Allah to you all,” and they said “You are lying”, while Abu Bakr said “You have told the truth” [Bukhari].

Abu Bakr accompanied the prophet SAW throughout his life, even before revelation, never missing a battle nor missing emigration to Medina! An event, honored by a revelation where Allah SWT said “The second of two when the two of them were in the cave” (9:40). It was none but Abu Bakr!

He is also known for his bravery and defense of the prophet SAW, especially when Okbah ibn Abi Maeet tried to throttle the prophet SAW, so Abu Bakr shouted “Would you kill a man because he says: My Lord is Allah, and he has come to you with clear signs from your Lord?” [Bukhari].

To be resumed inshaa Allah in Part 2…

Fear Allah in Women – Part 3

Fear Allah in Women – Part 3

Fearing Allah in women in the foremost part means treating them as equal human beings, whether as a wife or as a daughter. And since part of being human means being imperfect, a husband must accept that his wife/daughter will make mistakes. The key difference between a good husband and a bad one is that the former imitates the prophet SAW when a problem arises with his household, whereas, the latter takes a different path. Big mistake!

And since the prophet SAW never beat any of his wives/daughters, then he must have been doing something else to avoid such outcome, what is it? The prescription is described in detail, not by the prophet SAW, but rather by Allah SWT. Please read carefully how to rectify a wife’s error: “As to those women on whose part you fear disobedience, admonish them, then refuse to share their beds, and finally beat them (lightly)” (4:34).

This is the order: Admonish, then migrate their beds, and “only” if both fail, you are allowed to beat lightly as a means of saying “wake up!”. Now, how many husbands understand that admonition means soft, kind and nice words. How many know that it never comes from a cold heart?! Admonition means touching the other person’s heart to soften it, so if you can’t do this to your wife, who would you do it to?! Seriously! Then the husband would say I admonished her but she never listens; but you haven’t even admonished her yet! Only when you praise her you do!

Only when all praise and kind words fail to rectify the matter is the husband allowed to turn his back to his wife in bed for three nights maximum. And when all this fails, beating is allowed, not with your hand Mr. Husband but rather with a Siwak, or the equivalent of a toothbrush! So why did scholars unanimously agree that beating should only be with a Siwak? Because it will NEVER harm! And Because this is what the prophet SAW did when he wanted to rectify one of his companions; he SAW tickled him with a Siwak! Let alone that admonition, migrating beds and beating as a last resort are for MAJOR problems ONLY, so husbands, do not abuse them!

On a separate note, are you aware that if you beat her with a Siwak (or toothbrush) and hurt her or harm her, your beating becomes Haram?! Are you aware that if you beat her on the face or on sensitive parts of the body even with a Siwak, that your beating becomes Haram?! Are you aware that if you dishonor her with a Siwak in any way, or tickle her with it in front of her children, your beating becomes Haram?! Are you aware that if your Siwak leaves any mark on her body, your beating instantly becomes Haram?!

Let’s conclude with what I think is probably the biggest misconception with Muslim husbands. Sustaining the house is her right not a favor from you! When the prophet SAW says “He should feed her whenever he eats and cloth her whenever he clothes himself” [Ibn Majah], then never come and brag about it later on!

What was presented in those three articles is the least understanding of “Fear Allah in Women”, so please treat the matter with extreme care!

Fear Allah in Women – Part 2

Fear Allah in Women – Part 2

When the prophet commanded his Ummah (nation) to fear Allah in women in his final sermon, he probably knew how much they’d eventually deviate from his teachings. So this is a good time to dig deeper into this simple, yet dangerous commandment where he SAW said it clear “Fear Allah in Women”.

How do we know then if we’re properly applying the prophet’s command of fearing Allah in women? Simple, if you do like him you abide, otherwise, no for Allah SWT said “Verily in the messenger of Allah you have a good example for him who looks unto Allah and the Last Day, and remembers Allah much” (33:21). So let’s ask this again, why was the prophet SAW sent? He SAW answered “Verily, I was not sent but to perfect and complete the best ethics” [Authentic].

So now that you “must” follow the prophet SAW, who was especially sent to perfect ethics, let me ask, did you ever read that he beat any woman?! I want us to hear from the prophet’s wives themselves about this issue of beating women because it is of extreme importance nowadays. Did the prophet beat any woman? Aisha’s testimony: “The Prophet SAW has never beaten with his hand, neither a woman, nor a child” [Muslim]. Safiya’s testimony: “Never have I seen anyone better on character than the Messenger of Allah SAW” [Tabarani].

Now seriously, when you deliberately go beat any woman, who exactly are you taking as your role model when you do this? Abu Jahl?! Beating any woman, no matter who she is, even your own maid, has absolutely nothing to do with the teachings of the prophet SAW. Do you need proof? Well, Anas ibn Malik, who served the prophet SAW for 10 years, starting at a pretty young age, has an important testimony to make here. Anas’ testimony: “I served the Prophet SAW for years. He has never insulted me, never hit me, never scolded me and never frowned to me”[Baghawi].

Therefore, before resorting to Halal and Haram to justify beating any woman, you first need to know and admit that the prophet SAW never beat any woman! Now talking about Halal and Haram, are you aware that the initial ruling regarding beating women/wives in Islam is that it’s FORBIDDEN?! The initial ruling as stated by the prophet SAW goes as follows “Do not beat women” [Abu Dawud & Ibn Majah], every other ruling is an exception people! It wasn’t until husbands complained that wives disobeyed them and mistreated them that the prophet SAW allowed it; it was the EXCEPTION!

Consequently, if you beat your wife without her disobeying or mistreating you, the prophet SAW said “those men are not the best among you” [Abu Dawud & Ibn Majah]. So initially, beating women was forbidden, then it was exceptionally allowed, and finally it was ruled as disliked (Makrouh) and Haram if abused. So before even thinking about it, please remember that “The Muslim is the one from whose tongue and hand the people are safe” [Nasai].

To be resumed inshaa Allah in Part 3…